Note: If you wear the jewelry or clothes that I talk against, I want you to know that all opinions are what I believe and I don't want anyone to think I am hating against the way the dress. Thank you.

Before I start I just want to say that I have been sick all last week and I have had an awful ear infection all this week and I haven't slept a full night lately and I actually was up from 2:47-6:00 because my ear ached so bad! This is why I have been gone.

  I have done a post before about modesty  but it was very short and I thought I should recap my beliefs.

The first point I would like to go over is;

Why be modest?
Why should I be modest?
"I don't think my chest hanging out is immodest"
"Those pants make me look "sexy"  why are they bad?"
"I feel more confident in that mini dress"
"That black shadow and red lip stick makes me look kissable"

These are only four of many things people say now in days in a defense against immodesty.
They think that men find them utterly irresistible.
This is wrong.
Only worldly perverted men feel this way.
If you would like to know what guys think about modesty click here.
She goes through a list of quotes taken from real men about the subject.
My favorite is this one:

Modesty just makes me more comfortable around girls. I don’t have to guard my thoughts or actions. I can truly respect the beauty of a woman when I’m not distracted by the natural man (carnal man). Guys are cursed with this we just have to learn how to control it. A woman doesn't need to expose her body to be beautiful. -Christopher

Cristopher is very right!

You don't have to undress yourself to be a pretty person or even a beautiful lady.

You should be modest for 3 reasons.

1. God says so!

In 1 Timothy 2:9 the Bible says:

"In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;"

See!

The Bible says that we need to be what?

Modest!

2. You need be different from the world.

James 4:4 - Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.

The ladies of the world have there own style, immodesty. They dress to please those in the world and not God. This is wrong because God says that we need to not be friendly with the world or the things of the world.

3.You must save your divine body for your husband.

This is the most important thing after God saying so. You don't need to share your curves with other men, you need to save them for your husband. My second point is:

What are types of modesty?

This point has to do with immodesty not as in only showing flesh (although it is the top form of immodesty) but also the "bling" you adorn yourself in or the worldly flashy styles that are very "look at me"-ish and don't show that you are a good girl seeking  attention from a godly man in search of your heart.

I have 4 different immodesties that I have listed:

1. Makeup.

Now in days makeup has become a form of covering up in stead of a way to accentuate your God given beauty.

It has become a mess of dark shadows 

Vampy lips

And self praise  

It draws attention to your outside and not to your inside. I have heard girls say that it gives them confidence. I believe makeup can do that, but only if it is done naturally and as a symbol of God's divine workmanship in creating a lady.

Now in days young girls have role models, namely, teenagers and adults. If a 10 year old girl sees a 16 year old lady wearing bold lips and dark eyes there is an  85% chance that she will follow her foot steps. This is why we should be aware of how we are making our selves up.

2. the earrings you wear!!!

I gave earrings there own place in my post because they can be just as immodest as dark makeup. How? you might ask. Earrings(dangles) can be big!

 #no joke

Now I know this picture is unrealistic unless you are a Sasquatch, however it is true that women do wear huge gaudy earrings now in days.

 

These are some realistic pictures of earrings people actually wear!

Do they draw attention to her heart? No. They draw attention to herself and her made up exterior.

Now I'm not saying that dangle earrings are necessarily wrong,  In fact I wear them often. (although I adore some little studs!) If they are cute, that's not wrong either; but when they are there to make you more noticeable then we have a problem.

Earrings can be a sweet statement that doesn't over do attention.

Note: If you are with a man or you are one I ask you don't read past this mark. There are pictures that could cause your mind to wonder. THANK YOU.

Types of immodest clothes. 

1. What's wrong with pants.

In this little point I would like to address my beliefs about pants and why I sincerely believe they are meant for a man and not for a woman for the following reasons.

a. The Bible says that a woman should dress like a woman and that she shouldn't wear mens clothing.

Deuteronomy 22:5

Viewing the King James Version. Click to switch to 1611 King James Version of Deuteronomy 22:5.

The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.

Right hear it's very clear that we are to dress like a lady.

Originally men wore pants and women wore skirts/dresses.

And if wearing mens clothing is an abomination unto God, then I think I'll stay away from it.

b. It draws attention to the wrong places!!!

Your wear.

That is the first place you look when you see a lady in pants. Now girls don't notice it that much but men who have a catching eyes do catch it. It hugs the shape of your body! And I'll use the same argument for shorts, they're just short pants.

2. Skirts.

a. Tight shirts.

#putthathinybackorsohelpme.

Does she know that her wear-end looks big????? I don't have to ask you where your eyes go in a tight skirt. It is obviously immodest.

b. Skirts above the knees.

Exodus 28:42 says

And thou shalt make them linen breeches to cover their nakedness; from the loins even unto the thighs they shall reach:

The thigh is from the hip to the knee.

That is clear any where.

Merriam Webster defines it as:

: the part of your leg that is above the knee\

So if you uncover your thigh you are sinning against God. Now this doesn't mean your knee must be covered, only you thigh. A good guideline however to have is that your skirt reaches below your knee.

and not above.

The first two of these skirts according to the bible are indeed modest, however the last one is clearly immodest.

3. Blouses.

I chose to put this one last so that any men reading this would have to actually scroll down in order to see the pics I am going to post.

Remember we don't want to ever tempt a man even if it is someone elses picture.

a. Low cut blouses.

This one I am going to be careful demonstrating as it is the part of our body we should never expose and I will prefer handling this subject with caution.

This is one example. If you look at the more front faced picture you will notice that she is revealing a little bit. Maybe not as much as other girls but just enough to tempt a man. women wear lowcut shirts for 1 reason. To express there Sexy-ness. 

They do not want to cover themselves up and they think that if God gave them "BOOBS" then they should share them.

But although this is a bit touchy for me seeing as I am not in a relationship I must say that your breasts and your body are meant for you to share with your husband ALONE!

b. Tight blouses.

Tight blouses can be just as dangerous as lowcut blouses although they cover your breast they still reveal your chest area. The same goes for gathered blouses near the chest.

They draw attention right at your bust line.

c. Crop tops.

Crop tops are those little numbers that crop your top and expose your belly.

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Your tum-tum is meant to be covered just as well as your bust is. Although we don't see anything in the bible about croptops or tight shirts or even low cut shirts we do see verses about covering your body and about not tempting men.

  James 1:14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. 

We must be careful not to entice a man into temptation.

4. Dresses

a. Sleeveless/off the shoulder

So there are debates about whether sleeveless dresses or even shirts are modest or not. For me I choose not to wear sleeveless because it is right on the line to the point at which someone may be able to see down the arm hole if I raise my arm.

Now I can't say that sleeveless dresses are immodest I just think that they can be on the line of being risky.

So the above picture is not apparently immodest but it is showing more skin then it should.

If you look at this lady you can see that there is slight bit of her bust showing from the side which can in fact cause a man to stumble.

Now about off the shoulder dresses. 

So this dress at the top is not immodest in fact I would say there is nothing wrong with that top aside from it being too tight. Now on a day to day basis I think it is not something I would wear and honestly if you bend down it could be risky and provide a free show that shirts on the shoulder would not provide.

So honestly I believe that this particular style would be on the line of possibly being immodest.

Now, I could show you a ton of other and more immodest off the shoulder tops but I think this one fits my purpose.

b. Strapless

Now in days ladies have become experts at showing off their "stuff" and sadly strapless dresses have become the way for women to do so.

I don't have to tell you what is showed off in this picture, her bust is showing. And that is what is wrong with a strapless dress. It shows off things that ought not be showed off.

5. Swim wear.

Now I know that many people believe that it is ok to wear bikinis or 1 piece suits around their family.

However your brother and father can see you in something and it could cause them to stumble. I am not saying that your brother of father will lust after you but they can think things they are not supposed to.

I am not going to show a pic of someone in a bikini or super short shorts but I would like to give you an example of modest swimwear.

Although her dress is above her knees, her leggings are below and therefore this is acceptable for swimming. However it would be wrong to wear this outside of your family. Your knees are still exposed even though they're covered by the dress their shape is exposed.

Remember this; Raise you arms, touch your toes, if anything shows then change your clothes!!!!

I hope you enjoyed this post and I just want to say that if you do not agree with my stand on modesty then that is ok  I just ask that you wisely choose your words in the comments below, remember that God sees the comments as well as I do.

Sick for 2 weeks!!!!

Hey ladies,
I know Ihave not posted in a while but I have been sick since last week so  I have not felt up to blogging, so I have been sleeping and resting.
I felt ok for a couple days and then bad again but in the time I felt good I have been writing a podt about modesty but it is taking awhile.
Please forgive my absence:)

15 years in Neverland!

Now that I have 3 months and 9 days until I go to America every memory here in Croatia is coming back to me.
I think about all the Blessings God has given me and I am humbly in awe that He would send me here, to what I call Neverland.
I call Croatia Neverland because it is a town where you can walk in the forest and put you feet in the water and not fear that you will be taken, in fact that is the last thought that comes to my mind.
You can ride out to a nearby lake and watch the fish swim and dream about your future.
You can look at the mountains (outside my window) and think WOW! God is good.

My family and I are right down the road from an old mansion that over looks a glorious yard and beautiful topiary.
It is surrounded by a massive grey stone wall with black iron Gates curved and twisted to create an unforgettable sight.
It is also in the country and I go there especially when riding my bike and I just stop and look at the old war torn mansion and I wonder what stories it has trapped inside those secretive walls.

Croatia in the spring is my favorite!
The dahlias and the hydrangeas and roses wake up from their winter slumber to visit until Autumn.
The kids play games in the quiet neighborhoods, birds sing and all seems so serene.

If you are lucky you can catch the spring festivals which usually feature  Klapa ( Traditional Croatia) bands.

I like to right poetry in a nearby town park under a Oleander  bush.
It's just me, Nature and a notebook.

We used to love water fights when my brothers were here.

My little land is a Never land!

You feel like as long as you are there you will never have problems.

What's Going on in my life? #absent

Obviously I have been a naughty blogger lately:(
I have been really busy and I would like to briefly explain what has been happening.
I honestly don't know where to start.

I believe you all know about my attending Bob Grays Bible college in Longview this year and in order to send in an application I had to write a 2000-2500 word essay on my testimony and call to attend Texas Ibs.
I recently finished it but it took awhile to completely finish because I needed to get some information about my parents call to Croatia in detail.
All that has to be done is I need to insert page numbers and I stink at graphical stuff, and my mom needs to read it first just to make sure that it makes a good impression on the college.
I also have to fill out the application too.


I have recently been trying a 3 part plan to clear up my blemishes which is, Cleanser, Moisturizer, and Spot treatment and honestly it really is working!
My face is fully moisturized, none of that dry patchy stuff going on, it is clearing up quickly, and redness is going away!!(slowly) lol

I used to be gluten free but since I am going to Bible college I figured since I'm not allergic I would go ahead and quit for 3 reasons.

1. I would hate to be the kid with the "problem"
2. Gluten free would cost more and I will be on a tight budget.
3. If the girls want to go get a sandwich or something or go somewhere where they don't have gluten free choices then I would have to say I cant go and I don't want gluten free to hold me back.

I am growing my hair out and it is getting so long it's down to the bottom of my waist/high hips.



I have had braces on for about 21/2 years and in April they are coming off (YAY!!!!)
I also am getting a tooth implant to replace a tooth that never came in:(
They will surgically implant a screw March,20 and 2 weeks later they will screw on the tooth.
And then I need time to get my teeth to straiten out and then the braces will come off.
Luckily since my teeth were just missing another tooth I will only have to wear a retainer at night, which is good so that I don't sound like I have a lisp during the day.
This is because my teeth have no where to spread to.


Let's turn to a nicer subject.
April,28. we are flying out to Kentucky so we can pick up a car and then slowly making our way to Texas.
I will graduate in May and am completely terrified of the SAT I have to take lol.
I know God will take care of it all.
Then we are heading to Florida to visit some old friends and I am excited to see there daughter Hannah whom I haven't seen in 6 years I think.

Then I'll spend time with some close friends in Burnett while my parents go on an anniversary trip.
I will be spending the 4th with them.

Then we head quickly to Arlington area because on the 8th I will turn 18 so I will get to spend it with my brothers, grandparents and other family.
Then in early August I will head to college and the day my parents drop me off I will say goodbye :(

I am looking forward to what God has planned for me in the future!

Have a great week!

Here are some old pics of us.

                                                                  (Joshy sleeping)

                                                            (We visited Mayberry in Carolina a couple years back and Me and Barney hit it right off) #nasadogtags

(interesting fact Floyd from the Andy Griffith show was based off of this Man who's name is Floyd.

He was a child hood friend of Andy Griffith and yes my dad had him cut his hair!)

(This man was a very close friend of Andy and back when they were growing up black people and White people couldn't go to school together and mostly didn't play together.)

He drove us in a squad car around town!

Easy guilty coffee mug cake

Mug cakes can be either a sweet treat or a rubbery disgusting cake.

It's hard to find a good mug recipe but luckily I have found one for a coffee mug cake off of prudentbaby.com

Here's what you will need:

Cake

1 tbsp softened butter

2 tbsp sugar 

1 egg

2 tbsp sour cream(I used milk)

Dash vanilla

1/4 c flour 

1/8 tsp baking powder

Crumb topping

1 tbsp cold butter

1 tspcinnamon 

2 tbsp flour

1 tbsp brown sugar

Directions:

In a microwave safe mug soften your butter and then cream it with the white sugar.

Add the egg.stir.

Add in the sour cream and vanilla. Again stir.

Add in the flour and the baking powder stir again until completely combined!

 In a bowel add all of the crumb topping ingredients and smush it all together.

Spoon the topping onto the batter and microwave for 1:30- 2:00 depending on your microwave or until a toothpick inserted in comes out clean.

Let cool for about 10 sec and them eat it all!

Modest Clothes

Hey ladies I have started a modest clothing Instagram account featuring. My style check it out!

Please follow me and refer me to others!

Have an awesome day!

Stop looking to the world and start looking to Jesus.

Before I start this post I would like to say thanks to my mom for giving my blog an update I think she did an amazing job so go  check her out!


In today world teenagers are sadly looking to the world for answers instead of Jesus/God.
They get depressed over silly and excuse me but, stupid things.
Take no offence, I have been there and believe me I am never going back.

When my brothers left for college I went in to "a small depression"
I was sad, alone and for some silly reason afraid of being an only child.
I ridiculously thought if I only could see a psychiatrist and maybe I am going crazy. lol
Isn't that goofy?
However silly it was, it was true.
I was depressed and I sadly stopped reading my Bible and looking to God for help.
I didn't realize that the best physician, the best shrink was Christ.
He had my back and He cared cares for me.

 And a note to all those girls alone whether you are a Missionary kid, Preacher kid or maybe an only child, God is the best friend out there and He's got your back!

I have 3 short tips for those girls who just might be alone.

1. Look to Jesus.

In times when we feel alone and hopeless the best advice I can give is for you to look to Jesus, to go to Jesus!

Hebrews 12:2 says:

Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith.

Christ is the author of our Faith.
If you look to Jesus you will be filled with faith.

Look to Jesus for things you need and things you feel.
If you feel pain, Look to Jesus.
If you feel lonely, Look to Jesus.
If you feel over whelmed, Look to JESUS!

2. Take up a hobby.

This is not spiritually related to this post but a hobby will help you forget your loneliness.

A musical instrument, a craft or maybe a par time job are all good ways to forget that you are alone!

Maybe you like to bake, take lessons in baking and try out your favorite recipes

Do you like to sing?
So do I take a course in singing.

If you are a sewer-er then learn to sew.

What I  am basically trying to say is invest time in your future.


3. Serve the Lord with your time.

My last point is if you spend time soul winning, working at your church and helping others your "depression/anxiety" will quickly disappear.
Serving others and God will help you forget all your pains.
Believe me serving others makes you forget!

Last summer I did things for the people in my church: Bought the ladies flowers, took a picnic lunch to share with one of our senior citizens, baked treats for the members etc. my summer had never been so good.

My point is serve others and you will feel better, stronger, and wiser.